tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post3164417022015380482..comments2023-11-03T00:28:21.716-07:00Comments on Till My Dying Day: In a weird moodKemihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17872248415420381677noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-31612962215184492662011-02-25T09:16:31.508-08:002011-02-25T09:16:31.508-08:00Kemi, I second Rita and Myne's comments. I wo...Kemi, I second Rita and Myne's comments. I would say like you, I am the type that likes to take my time with kids and all that. My younger sister gave birth to her little girl 3 years ago(she is 3 now) and honestly, I loved her and all that but still did not have that "maternal instinct" of "oh gosh, i need to get my own too soon" even though I have been married for almost 10 years! I did talk to my husband before I married him though that 10 years was the miminum I was going to wait before i think about bringing in a child and he agreed. I did tell him in no uncertain terms then that I will not be changing my mind regardless of the situation and he also accepted. Now I live in the United States and that to a great extent, makes a whole lot of difference(in terms of family putting pressure on us and all that jazz lol). So you not alone at all and you are not strange! Everyone is different and because you are not like XYZ, does not mean you will make a bad mum when your time comes, pray and take your time and most importantly, communicate constantly with your husband your concerns and I am sure he will be understanding and meet you halfway with this issue. All the bestAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-83647057175611411772011-02-24T19:51:54.482-08:002011-02-24T19:51:54.482-08:00Having a child requires emotional, physical and me...Having a child requires emotional, physical and mental preparedness. Yes it happens like magic for some. For some, they have to think and plan about it.<br /><br />Do take it easy. I pray everything works out for you in due time...Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13202972020876371306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-45906520777171697712011-02-23T11:13:18.328-08:002011-02-23T11:13:18.328-08:00thanks everyone for your comments! It really puts...thanks everyone for your comments! It really puts a smile on my face and makes the day better.<br /><br />@prayers are always a good thing :-)<br /><br />@H, I'm glad you missed me :-P thanks for your advice. I need to keep things in perspective.<br /><br />@sweet, I'm actually quite sure I will be but I would be like that if someone dropped a dog, a cat, a baby, a random stranger in my lap! I understand you though :-)<br /><br />@HoneyDame, you and me both sister.<br /><br />@Toluwa, it really DOES pass, I learnt not to panic from Bo. I used to panic as well but he's just always so cool about everything :-) As a matter of fact right now, I'm back in my very in love phase, see!<br /><br />@Blessing, thanks. we do talk about it and he knows how I feel and is very supportive. we want to work through it together.<br /><br />@PET, i really love your comment. I agree with you.<br /><br />@kayty, thanks for your comment. I'm not so much worried as more trying to figure out what exactly it is that I do want. I'm sure kids would be fine, I mean I won't die and I'll never know how my life was before them but at the same time I want to make sure this is really what I want in the first place. It might not be.<br /><br />@Anon, VERY good point, thanks. It's all a leap of faith isn't it? Thanks for commenting.<br /><br />@Tori, I agree with you completely. That's the life of a woman isn't it?<br /><br />@Myne, hello! I really really get where you're coming from :-P It's hard for a lot of people to understand if a woman doesn't want kids. I think not everyone is maternal just depends if you close your eyes and bite the bullet anyway.Kemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17872248415420381677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-14299104423796776662011-02-22T11:15:57.247-08:002011-02-22T11:15:57.247-08:00We're planning our family too, and sometimes c...We're planning our family too, and sometimes comments from people just get me shaking my head. When will they understand that everyone is not the same? All the best sweetie, and snap yourself out of that blah mood quickish, :)Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-44850310713755575722011-02-22T09:18:38.237-08:002011-02-22T09:18:38.237-08:00You are not alone. I don't really want kids. I...You are not alone. I don't really want kids. I probably will have some (because I'm sure whoever I end up with will want them). And I'm sure a lot of our mothers felt the same way.Torihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15505621535734551758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-73734330297399830552011-02-22T06:03:49.239-08:002011-02-22T06:03:49.239-08:00You were never super freakishly excited about wedd...You were never super freakishly excited about wedding planning and see how beautifully it all turned out for you, just take a leap of faith.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-50881803353849720742011-02-22T04:12:30.545-08:002011-02-22T04:12:30.545-08:00is there ever a ready-time? :) Jesus said 'Don...is there ever a ready-time? :) Jesus said 'Don't worry about anything...i say the same thing too!lamikaytyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09751692582244639132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-88035078212040103102011-02-22T01:13:38.804-08:002011-02-22T01:13:38.804-08:00I think about this sometimes.... u know, how our l...I think about this sometimes.... u know, how our lives as women gets interrupted cos of the whole baby prep and arrival, but then, i hear we'll learn to adjust somehow and i believe that applies to you too.<br /><br />Since u're a meticulous planner, i believe with God's grace and Bo's love, u'll grow into the phase and make the best of itP.E.T. Projectshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06221822233883521488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-47549213077954734222011-02-21T19:37:10.828-08:002011-02-21T19:37:10.828-08:00Aww...I'm sorry that you and Bo are not in suc...Aww...I'm sorry that you and Bo are not in such a "good" place...but it's normal and it'll pass!<br /><br />About the baby...just pray about it and express ur concerns to BO...I'm pretty sure that ur not the 1st and certainly not the last person that'll feel this way!<br /><br />Take care hun!Blessinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00063729360732047180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-46172067660898094392011-02-21T15:09:16.377-08:002011-02-21T15:09:16.377-08:00i like ur post. When i get into that place where u...i like ur post. When i get into that place where u r with Bo, the "not angry not fighting but not hot" i get scared! i guess i shld take a clue from u. It will pass...lol! <br /><br />Baby or babies? either way, only when u r ready!Toluwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06710406261682638968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-66464662362438497102011-02-21T15:02:57.188-08:002011-02-21T15:02:57.188-08:00uh...I am sitting here and waiting for this to unf...uh...I am sitting here and waiting for this to unfold. I have nada experience with matters of such so....more comments pleaseHoneyDamehttp://honeydame1.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-14006833627077379332011-02-21T14:10:48.715-08:002011-02-21T14:10:48.715-08:00Maybe you're just one of those people that won...Maybe you're just one of those people that wont have all the pre-maternal cravings, or maybe you just dont like feeling pressured whatever the issue is...........dont fret, when your baby comes along......you'll probably be all over adoring and all......sweetandsensiblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06145346236058490492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-50116638680953708212011-02-21T14:03:08.340-08:002011-02-21T14:03:08.340-08:00Kemmiii...it's been soo long...
finally!
Well...Kemmiii...it's been soo long...<br />finally!<br /><br />Well I thot of u this morning and I'm glad u decided to blog.<br /><br />Don't worry, U and Bo would be back in the clouds soon, keep praying, never stop praying cuz once u take even the shortest breaks, that's usually the beginning of worse to come.<br /><br />About the baby, yea, don't rush but at the same time, if u're going to have one, the earlier the better. You get to grow with the kid, not an old woman running around with a 2 year old.<br /><br />Re:Maternal instincts, I hear even those that don't plan for kids, develop this indescribable innate love for her kid, where she'd do anything to see that smile. <br /><br />Who knows, when the baby comes, we'd see a branch out of "till my dying day" or a transformation of your blog to "till my dying day and baby"...(that's how special he/she would be and u wud look back and wonder how u cuda gone on in/with life without ur lil munchkin.Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10126796793396642790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-19511715395442592782011-02-21T12:58:45.220-08:002011-02-21T12:58:45.220-08:00....Aww how cute, you should have a baby when you .......Aww how cute, you should have a baby when you are ready, don't rush it but sometimes the timing might never be ready...miss ya girl, my greetings to the hubby, hang in tight, pray about it too.Yankeenaijababehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15578298912840032898noreply@blogger.com