tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post5148051489536957406..comments2023-11-03T00:28:21.716-07:00Comments on Till My Dying Day: Hmmpf...Kemihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17872248415420381677noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-9006037321377174452011-06-24T10:49:43.818-07:002011-06-24T10:49:43.818-07:00i am glad you guys are sticking to date night.. as...i am glad you guys are sticking to date night.. as married people say.. if you want you and husband to do something in the future.. start doing it from the start.. keep at it, it will soon become second nature to him... i hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-91939850045837432812010-08-30T09:41:15.734-07:002010-08-30T09:41:15.734-07:00@Anonymous, thanks so much for your kind words and...@Anonymous, thanks so much for your kind words and for stopping by. I look forward to reading your comments!<br /><br />@Amy, AMEN! how are you? I think of you from time to time with residency and new marriage AND blogging! modern wonderwoman you are! Congrats again.Kemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17872248415420381677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-57622033717764089692010-08-26T09:46:35.929-07:002010-08-26T09:46:35.929-07:00I'm happy you and the hubby are making things ...I'm happy you and the hubby are making things work. Marriage is hard work, but the fruits of your labor will be sweet!Abby the Tiny Travelerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10593548023278893882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-77202400840246688662010-08-25T11:40:43.830-07:002010-08-25T11:40:43.830-07:00Kemi all i can say about your blog is WOW! just fi...Kemi all i can say about your blog is WOW! just finished reading your posts from the beginning and i absolutely love it, its utterly amazing....... God bless you and your marriage abundantly. Im definitely going to be an avid reader of your blog. youre such an inspiration...... ill be commenting as anonymous but anyway thank you for sharing alot on your blog, i really appreciate it. God bless xxxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-45515646408239279322010-08-21T21:16:09.739-07:002010-08-21T21:16:09.739-07:00Congrats on making it through...we all fight and d...Congrats on making it through...we all fight and disagree, we just don't all talk about it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-91727058409772686272010-08-19T09:36:03.974-07:002010-08-19T09:36:03.974-07:00@braids, compromise is constant isn't it? tha...@braids, compromise is constant isn't it? thanks for your comments :-)<br /><br />@NewLife, you've just given me a new perspective re date night is about time with him not just about a concept. thanks for helping me remember that!<br /><br />@H, #hifive! ordering in is such a great idea. that could be a way to spend more time and still give him some time to finish work.<br /><br />@isha, was my idea but I proposed to cancel it once and he said no, he likes it and thinks it's important. we just need to learn compromise lessons on both ends :-)<br /><br />@Anon, i'm happier! you can comment here anytime whether you're married or not. surely you have your points of view and experiences around marriages that could be really helpful or help to see something in a different way. Don't worry i take ALL comments with a big jar of salt! :-)Kemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17872248415420381677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-56300136801398119712010-08-19T09:17:05.592-07:002010-08-19T09:17:05.592-07:00Aww thank you ladies!
I'm actually quite fine...Aww thank you ladies!<br /><br />I'm actually quite fine now, lol.<br /><br />@Chich...oh, sorry Mrs E! I hear you. Sometimes that's the hard part isn't it?<br /><br />@Myne, it's better than where we were starting from but it's not exactly where I want to get us too. Maybe I'm being too inflexible.<br /><br />@capricorn, our weekends are SO filled, the only free time we get we tend to do a "family sleep" i.e, nap time lol.<br /><br />@Faith, i did that last week and this week was supposed to be out make up date.<br /><br />@Rita, it IS funny lol (keep in mind I'm reading this in the morning). Seems you understand where I'm coming from.<br /><br />@doll, I agree. My fear though is that both he and I have crazy jobs with erratic schedules. This week alone Bo's travelled out of Lagos twice and the times he hasn't travelled I've been working till 2am in the morning. Both our careers mean that we literally have to schedule "us" time or it'll easily slip away. But I do need to be more understanding though.Kemihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17872248415420381677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-61984841157403879092010-08-19T05:48:54.769-07:002010-08-19T05:48:54.769-07:00I'm not married so please take what I say with...I'm not married so please take what I say with a pinch of salt. It seems to me that the whole point of date night is so that you you both make time for each other. This way, your relationship doesn't get lost in the daily hustle and bustle of life. So it should not only be important to you, it should be important to him as well. He can get fired from his job any day, but marriage is supposed to last forever. Perhaps you need to sit down and talk with him about the purpose of date night - it's not just about going out to eat, but about making time for each other and your relationship. But like I said, I'm not married so do take this with a pinch of salt. Good luck. Hope to see you back here soon in a happier mood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-72365367369101442422010-08-19T05:14:11.191-07:002010-08-19T05:14:11.191-07:00I'm only going to try to be objective now...
...I'm only going to try to be objective now...<br /><br />Whose idea was date night? If it was yours, (even if he agreed to it whole heartedly and totally), you may need to just sit with him and establish some conditions/allowances/rules, etc. I mean, I'm sure he didn't even think it was a big deal. He's prolly thinking, we had 2 hours together already. Think about the days when Date Night won't be too convenient for you too...<br /><br />Yes you have to work at marriage... that sometimes involves compromise.ishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06112377307620987180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-32525302963821609952010-08-19T05:14:02.983-07:002010-08-19T05:14:02.983-07:00Awww Kemi lav, I was so excited u updated but I...Awww Kemi lav, I was so excited u updated but I'm not so happy that u're mad...I agree with E and doll. I'm also proud of u for understanding that u need to work through this. <br /><br />U're a good girl for not saying lets forget about it then. #hifive.<br />U set ur pride aside and humbled urself.<br /><br />I would suggest helping him out by ordering in occasionally when he's stressed like that. I don't blame u @ all for being mad. I probably would be too but seeing from the outside, its just easier to be more considerate. I hope this helps.<br /><br />Please blog a lil more often, I miss ur posts :DHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10126796793396642790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-17729056346363879352010-08-19T04:21:45.429-07:002010-08-19T04:21:45.429-07:00Kemi dearest,
I hope you feel better about the sit...Kemi dearest,<br />I hope you feel better about the situation. Remember marriage is about compromise, Bolaji needs to know that you can be flexible as well. I totally agree that you should let him know how important it is to you but I'm sure its pretty important to him too. Try not to get caught up in the "date night" itself. Bolaji needs to know its about spending time with him and not about the notion of date night itself. It will make it easier for him to compromise more and help date nights not be a burden on him in the future. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say. *hugs*NewLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15207557984532557915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-87190958170220603982010-08-19T02:32:56.382-07:002010-08-19T02:32:56.382-07:00I agree with Myne and doll.
You seemed to have pr...I agree with Myne and doll.<br /><br />You seemed to have prepared yourself well for marriage (I like that :) ) and I'm sure you already now this but this is just a gentle reminder just incase... marriage is about compromise. I'm not saying you should put your needs/wants aside, you matter too and Bolaji should be thinking about how to cater to you just as much you should be doing for him... afterall he is making that money to be able to provide for you and take you out someplace nice for another date night. :)Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00166275562101471285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-29740904647280199732010-08-19T02:31:17.340-07:002010-08-19T02:31:17.340-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00166275562101471285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-79380391265643687002010-08-19T00:54:33.059-07:002010-08-19T00:54:33.059-07:00i think you can be more understanding though. bec...i think you can be more understanding though. because you say he is an Investment Banker. IB is so crazy am even tripped he has 2 hours to offer, so maybe you should be more understanding and kinda make things easier for him and allow him make it up to you when his schedule is lighterdoll (retired blogger)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04617294319074603189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-39781784890258688732010-08-19T00:12:40.729-07:002010-08-19T00:12:40.729-07:00Aren't u so funny, lol @ "like hernia/hea...Aren't u so funny, lol @ "like hernia/heartattack serious..."<br /><br />Sorry oh, you must really not be finding this funny, but am sure you will feel better when you wake up.<br /><br />Date night is date NIGHT, I agree. If couples do not make out such time, they won't know when "time" has passed them by and they didn't have all the fun they wanted alone...Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13202972020876371306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-16843563852683688842010-08-18T18:53:08.030-07:002010-08-18T18:53:08.030-07:00with a really cute smile of course! ;)with a really cute smile of course! ;)Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614940560800247144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-68713787651219845172010-08-18T18:52:51.209-07:002010-08-18T18:52:51.209-07:00aww, i'm sorry date night didn't go as pla...aww, i'm sorry date night didn't go as planned ... it sucks when you get into a lil pow wow with the hubs. tell him that he owes you a date day now! :)Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15614940560800247144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-59728436727332026962010-08-18T17:39:55.467-07:002010-08-18T17:39:55.467-07:00Sorry your plans didn't work out exactly how y...Sorry your plans didn't work out exactly how you wanted it to. <br />Have you guys tried doing whatever was planned for date night on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Just the two of you could go out, or stay indoors with take out!capricorndeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315743488232197277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-77817829383082677502010-08-18T16:01:44.506-07:002010-08-18T16:01:44.506-07:00I share the same with Mrs. E. Just want to add, bu...I share the same with Mrs. E. Just want to add, but 2hrs is better than no date night right?Mynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595087387069634003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2289770347357861607.post-70336804796210289132010-08-18T15:00:04.306-07:002010-08-18T15:00:04.306-07:00Hun, sorry to hear date night didn't work out ...Hun, sorry to hear date night didn't work out as planned. Can definitely be frustrating. No major advice except to say that sometimes men don't put the same value on things like we do and in those situations we have to let them know (remind them) why it is important to the relationship. It's all about priorities.Chichihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11439905209391661773noreply@blogger.com