Wednesday, March 24, 2010

No Flower Girl

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

The "palemo" has just been going and I've been trying my hardest to keep all the balls juggling in the air. Work is just killing my behind and I barely have time to sleep and spend coo-ing time with the beau, talk less of wedding planning. The latest development anyhow is that my flower girl has dropped out and will no longer be able to make my destination wedding. When her mother, one of my closest friends, told me I just had to be calm about it all. Well, at least to her. After all, it's not by force that someone must do bridal train so what other choice did I have? I had told them almost a year ago now that their daughter must be in my bridal party. She's a beautiful young girl that I just love so much and I've seen grow right from the belly into the 6 year-old she now is. I love her so much. Even the last time I saw my friend which was just a couple of months ago, she still confirmed to me that they were coming. Alas, this past weekend the call came and after speaking for about 20min she finally out with it. I just told her it was okay and hung up.

I felt so down about it but not in a depressed way you know, I was just weary of wedding planning and all the disappointments it brings. A friend of mine who's also getting married (this week!) was telling us that her Maid of Honor quit last week! So she's not going to have an MOH, she seemed quite zen about it but by this time I know that look of bridal disappointment from a mile away. It's just so tough. During this time I've found out that the people I thought I could count on the most were actually just not there and the people you didn't even think twice about are the ones that are jumping through all kinds of hoops to make sure they are there for you. I was sad. Then my mom informs me she'll only be coming in for 2 days and then she'll be flying back to the states. I tried to convince her to stay longer since I would like my mother to be around in the final days of my wedding but she said no. Also I've been so busy I didn't have time to do the invitation cards so I had to let that go. Then I was struggling to find time to type out the order of ceremony for the ceremony booklets and its been hard to squeeze in time between this very busy period at work. So i don't have invitation cards or ceremony booklets at the moment. I decided to hire someone to do them for me in the States and just ship them to my Mom's but she gave me a paypal account and I haven't been able to get it to work.

So that's the latest tale from my side of things. Oh, I had a mini-breakdown two days ago, had to head to the doctors but I think I'm all better now.

On a lighter (funner note) sometimes I get really scared when I think of how much I love Bolaji. Today I finally typed up those programs in Word format and it was very emotional to me just reading the vows we are going to say to each other. The ceremony reads so beautifully and I can't wait to say those words of covenant to my beautiful man. I found this little reading online and I'm incorporating it into our service. It gives me goosebumps just reading it so I've only read it a few times but everytime I read it my mind goes "wow, how did I get this lucky with this man of mine?" There's no one else I'd rather share my life with. So upon all the drama and weariness, I can't wait for those moments!

Blessing of the Hands - revised by Rev. Daniel L. Harris:

“These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever. These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other. These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and as in today, tears of joy. These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children, the hands that will help you to hold your family as one. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.”

Monday, March 15, 2010

My Cake

Monday, March 15, 2010

This is my cake. Well, without the white stick figures and the red rose. I don't know why we chose this cake. I think it will give my mother a slight heart attack. She will hate it. I don't know why we picked it. We were looking for one of the normal safe options when a friend pointed us to a bakery which had the reputation of being just the best bakery around those parts. I mean, they count Oprah as one of their clients! We met with Jackie who's the quintessential Jewish mother and she joked and laughed and drew us a picture. Then gave Bolaji a free magazine. Then we said okay. From the moment we walked out of the bakery that faithful morning, I was thinking "what have I done????" Alas, it is done. The cake has been paid for.

This is my cake.

I think I love it. I'm afraid that I love it. Secretly. Deep inside of me I'm jumping for glee.

I'm afraid I'll hate that I did this to my wedding pictures.

Sunday, March 14, 2010


Sunday, March 14, 2010
My second countdown is on! I'm getting so excited and sometimes I try to contain myself like "calm down girl!" but I'm so excited to finally officially be my boo's wife! I think about it and I'm so overwhelmed. Even now as I'm typing this there's so much love in my heart. I'm sitting alone in our living room (Bolaji's out at Polo) and I can't believe how happy and lucky I am. I'm a lucky girl. A very very very lucky girl.

We took my mother-in-law out to lunch today to celebrate mothering sunday and it was quite a lovely afternoon. I was a bit nervous about it because they are very blunt, the two, and I was afraid that something might come up that would upset me. But it was lovely. My father in-law had brought along a few things he wanted to put into the out of town bags he was making, so they showed us samples. Yes you read that right: My father-in-law is making OOT bags for the guests at the wedding! I could just literally jump for glee! These bags are on my to do list but to be really honest I was a bit worried about them because I wasn't sure if i'd really have time to finish them up so you can imagine my surprise! God Bless 'Em! I feel like perhaps we just need to build our relationship and settle into our comfort zone and I must say I'm looking forward to that as well.

My second dress fitting is next week, YIPPEE. I'm so excited I could burst really. I went for the first fitting a few weeks ago but that was just a calico fitting but this next one would be the actual dress. I can't wait! I don't know if i'm going to cry or be emotional. We'll see. I might have to go by myself though as my best friends don't live in Lagos and other family members won't be able to take time off work. We'll see though. Still on the wedding note, I won't be able to travel to the States any longer to do some wedding shopping so I'm hoping to find everything I need here. I still need to buy my wedding shoes, my undergarments, my wedding night lingerie, and maybe a few other things. This should take some coordinating.

Oh, I wanted to write such an interesting post but I don't know if wedding stuff is exciting, plus I'm finding it hard to be coherent right now because I'm just so overjoyed and overwhelmed at the prospect of the whole thing. Okay, let me go read some other blogs and maybe I'll be inspired to write something interesting, lol.

Less than a month to go!

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Busy Bee!

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

Work has been EXTREMELY busy lately and I just don't have time to catch but I wanted to drop by and say hello. White wedding plans are going right in gear and I have one month left woohoo! Regular posts will be forthcoming (by next week). Meanwhile I'll say a big HELLO to my new followers!!! I'm usually more interesting, but I'll make it up to you mwah!

PS - YNC or if anyone reads this and can get to Mrs. YNC please can you ask her to add me? or how can I view her blog? I'm not tech savvy :-( Thanks!
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