Hello Hello Hello!

I know, I know I've been scarce.

It's really just been a combination of not having enough motivation to blog, feeling I don't have any much more to say, and life just throwing an incredible amount of whirlwind our way (good and bad).  The usual.  I think we've been through a lot this year but in an incredible way.  I'm always amazed at how God works.  So much learning and so much growing this year, but I'm thankful things have not REALLY gone crazy and God's peace has really been with us throughout.  I've been feeling very peaceful lately and feeling lucky, blessed, favored.

I suppose first things first, no Bo and I did not have any children.  It is just still "us two".  I think we were trying for a whopping period of about two weeks (ha!) before we (I) decided to extend the timeline yet again.  The good thing though is, we are both definitely ready for that phase of our lives.  It took us a long time to get there though!  We're at peace, we're happy, we've finally saved up some money, and God has provided for every and each one of our concerns.  By God's grace our family will extend in the next 12 months.

As for us, we're doing splendidly.  I'm extremely proud of us.  I'm more in love with my hubby today than I was the day we married, even than I was 2 years ago.  We're truly happy.  It's taken a long time to get here it seems but we're the best thing in each other's lives.  I'm never happier than when I'm with him and I hope it's the same for him.  Although the million kisses are not a daily occurence anymore, they do come almost every other day.  Sometimes I think if people see how affectionate we truly are with each other at home, they'd probably puke...we're very very affectionate with each when it's just us two.  It's nice and there's no day I don't wake up extremely thankful for this rare gift.  Make no mistake, it's rare.  I am lucky, blessed, and thankful for it all.

Hope everyone is doing well.  I've been keeping up sporadically with my blogworld friends and right now I've got to go see what Amy and Faith are up to!

Just a quick update.  Plus ca change, plus c'est la meme chose!

Marry a Gentleman!

Bo is a gentleman.  I don't mean that in the cutesy way people say but I mean really, he is a gentleman.  He won't sit while there are women standing, he'll open doors for you, he'll carry the heavy loads or if the load isn't heavy, he'll still carry it anyway, he's a regular knight in shining armour.  Not only Bo though, but all his friends.  It's just how they've been brought up and their schooling.  And it's not just with their spouses and family but to everyone.  Life with someone is much much easier when the other person is a gentleman.  It's like a code of behaviour you can always count on.

I think it's a good thing to look for this in a potential partner.  How does he treat, speak to, speak about the women in his life? How does he relate to elderly, friends, acquaintances, his boys, etc.  How do his friends relate to their partners? Keep a close eye on these things.  Trust me it feels good when my husband takes on the qualities of a good knight...*chuckle. I feel special and cared for and loved.   It's a great feeling so advice from me to anyone reading this and still looking, fid a gentleman.  Not a roughneck, not a rowdy randy man about town, a gentleman who opens the door for you, just because.

Goodluck!

Catch Up...How Are YOU Doing?

Hello to everyone out there.

Happy New Year and happy everything that has passed while I've given the blog a bit of a rest.  It wasn't really by choice but it is quite possible that I'm growing past blogging in general.  I've also tried to declutter my other tech/social media communication outlets.  Sometimes I feel there's entirely too much sharing and I just want to live and experience my journeys rather than always documenting everything as I go along.

Considering that the last few times I blogged, a lot of negativity came out of the woodwork, it was also a good time to give it (and give them) a rest.  I was quite frankly so surprised at how reluctant some people are to 1) be happy for another human being 2) believe that true happiness does exist.  I was saddened by what I was reading and I didn't want to be sad about it anymore in many cases.  Bo simply would shake his head at me and wondered why I was even getting so involved to begin with.  It got downright mean and catty and I was confused and surprised that such could result from a blog that truly comes from a beautiful place on my part - to chronicle and to share.  We as women don't share our experiences very often and I think we should, we carry so much.  It's hard being a woman! We should stick together and help and support and encourage each other. No Matter What.  There's enough negativity in the world, I definitely don't want to be one of the voices adding to it.

Anyway, Bo and I have been great.  We're in the third year of our marriage and certainly no longer in the honeymoon phase...ha!  I look at it as us earning our stripes.  And three years is not a whole lot, but it's enough to not have an idealistic view of life, of marriage, but conversely, to also still be able to not be stale.  We're not quite an old married couple but we're getting there.  In my saner moments, I love this.  We're just two old fogies, growing old together, and making a life together.  It may not be the best possible life, but it's ours and we own it.  We're comfortable and settled and we love each other, not in that fairytale way, but in a "flesh of my flesh" way.  Bo is my family and within his heart resides my home.  If reincarnation were real, my soul would search all over again, until it found his.   This I know for sure.

The good news is...I do believe we shall be trying to expand our family very soon.  You know, it's not what I thought it would be like, like they portray in the movies.  For us it's not both parent staring with glazed eyes at each other in love as they decide they want to have babies.  For us it's so methodical, with many iterations and a final "okay...well, if we must".  I think we'll be excited once it finally happens but right now we're more tentative about it all.  We've lost about 1/3rd of our income in the last few months due to some scenarios I will not discuss, but I think this largely contributes to our trepidation.  Nevertheless, I think we're going to start soon.  At least I bought vitamins (though haven't started taking them!), and made an appointment for a preconception check up!  We have to be really careful because of my medical condition which I've mentioned a few times.  If left unmonitored, it could jeopardize my life.

I've always said I would try and share this journey on this blog.  It could be long, it could be short, it could be stressful, it could be easy.  Like I said earlier, we haven't quite started yet, but that's where the train is headed.  Or we may chicken out and adopt or something.  Who knows - but that's the fun in the journey of life!