How I wish I could share the chuckle Bo and I just had regarding this post, but I think it's probably best to keep it an inside joke!
The one thing I've learned for sure in keeping this blog is that the nature of the medium itself allows everyone to participate in one of the purest human ways possible. There's always what is being said, and what is the truth/motivation behind what is being said. I've found that once you can discern the two, it's easier to let go and enjoy the blog for what it is. This goes for both the author and the audience of the blog. I enjoy this aspect so tremendously. Now for the comments section, I've found that it almost always says much more about the person commenting, than the subject the comments are directed to. It is usually out of some personal experience that motivates one to go through the hassle of leaving a comment. Fascinating. Reading comments is my favorite part of keeping this blog.
Which leads me to my last post. There's a comment by someone called Uloms and a few other visitors (welcome to my blog!). To ease your various concerns for me and my living in bondage or pain (I can't even believe I typed that!) let me reassure you that I am not in bondage or in pain. Thanks for the concern. I'm also quite free. Now, to ask a truly honest question, how would you know if I were telling the truth about being free and not in bondage or in pain? I'm really interested to know mostly because I personally think it would require some sort of leap of faith for you in what I am writing. Believe or not, there's really no way for you to know for sure, ever. So I personally don't see a need for such a strong feeling on the subject! :-)
There was a comment on infertility. Yes, I have a condition that is similar to, but not, PCOS. No, your guess was wrong. Bo & I are on birth controls and have never, not once, even tried to TTC. Whenever Bo & I do start TTC, we may have conception issues or we may not. We will cross the bridge when we get there. PCOS and other similar conditions are very serious issues affecting many women the world over and I do not take the issue lightly out of utter respect and compassion for those who struggle with it and its implications daily. I don't bandy it about and it matters to me a great deal that I don't distort my experiences living with it. Thus, if I were TTC and having troubles, I would mention it if only to assure others they weren't alone. To those who care, I don't know what it's like TTC with PCOS because I've never tried, when I do, I will definitely share the journey to provide information and to encourage.
Lastly, isn't it incredulous that some would say "You are thinking too much about having a baby"? It's a baby for chrissakes! I like that I oscillate about whether or not I'm ready, I do think it's completely responsible and acceptable behaviour to consider all options and listen to all experiences before embarking on such a journey. It is good to read all sorts of books, to talk about it, to be honest with oneself and to explore one's emotions. These are all great things to do before bringing another human being into the world. I'm supposed to be allowed to go on incessantly about weddings and love but I can't go on incessantly about such a key product of weddings, marriage, and love? Really? Furthermore, it would not be responsible behaviour on my part to imply in any way that all women must want babies, and/or all women must be so sure in their hearts about their feelings and desires. It is entirely okay, not be so sure. If there are people out there who have made decisions not to have babies or to defer their child-rearing periods and never talk about this decision because it was such an easy no-brainer, I'm happy for them. Alas, as for me, I have a blog and I'm free to talk about it, the way I feel it. I like that my posts show it is not an easy decision and it's okay to go back and forth.
This blog is about happily ever after, the real story of love, marriage, relationship. The happily ever after where babies are discussed over and over again, mortgage, paying for school fees, leaving a will in case of unexpected death, saving and scrounging for cash and savings, getting your heart broken by your spouse, cuddling to sleep, and waking up to 1000 kisses are discussed.
To just look at pretty wedding pictures and skip over the daily routines of building a life, there's always the Bella Naija wedding pages!
I am just a madly, crazy, happily in love twenty something living and laughing in Lagos. This blog is kinda my diary chronicling my relationship, all the emotions, up down, crazy that go along with keeping and maintaining a relationship. Enjoy!