Bo and I have been going through a challenging time lately. He's so busy right now working on a project and comes home at about 10pm and I'm so busy at work I don't even walk into my home until at least 9pm. We spend what I call tired minutes together - plop down in front of the tv, have some dinner, pretend we're going to spend quality time in front of the tv, fall asleep on the couch in about 5 minutes flat! It would actually be quite funny if it well...if it wasn't! In between my little cousin would call to gist about her boyfriend issues, my mother-in-law would require me to send some recipe, I make sure the cook has made something appropriate for dinner, I make sure the cleaner has her cheque, I get to the gym to workout, it's really exhausting! Most worrying of all though, of course, is trying to find the time to have quality time with my hubby. It's quite frustrating. In the beginning of our marriage I told Bo that my biggest fear is that people drift apart in marriage because of how easy it is to just start living separate lives, where a couple spends 95% of their time outside of each other. To me the easiest path to that for us is work. It got so worrying for me last week friday, that I just had to leave everything to God, saying my golden prayer about God teaching us how to best love each other, to keep each other fulfilled. Sometimes things in life get in the way and one can only cling to the third person in the relationship, i.e God, to hold the reins until something eases up.
The good news though is that we both love our jobs, love what we do, and feel so fulfilled doing it. I'm really proud that we go against the grain in many aspects. I'm also really at peace in my heart that apart from being spouses to each other, and lovers, we are such great friends. Glad about this because at times like these when energy is spent elsewhere, our basic love, affection, admiration, hangs on to that thread of friendship. A few days ago I was fortunate to get out of the office rather early at 7pm and headed to a restaurant for drinks with a friend, I get a text message from Bo:
Babes...how's it going? I miss you, isn't the restaurant going to close soon?That brought a smile to my face. It's not a terribly big deal but it does make me happy that my husband misses his wife!
Regarding the previous two posts, thanks to all commenters.