Cut. Me. Some. Slack.
I think sometimes when we are in a relationship and so familiar with each other, we want them to be so many things to us, sometimes we forget that it takes quite a bit of effort to try and please someone else. That's how I translate this. It made me open my eyes and look to my hubby with eyes of compassion and understanding. Now it's like a mantra I run in my head all the time. I'm this man's wife, the person he's pledged his life to, the person he works extremely hard to make sure she's comfortable, if all he requests is just a little "slack", then I can learn to give him that. This has had many implications for us. Right now, Bo is involved in a few pretty big projects and he's either always on some conference call, or he has some documents he has to hand in to his partners. This gets frustrating sometimes but where previously I would have launched into a speech about how our relationship is just as important or more important than ANY other thing he could possibly come across and deserves just as much time, nowadays, I really make an effort to be more supportive and caring. I choose to see things from his point of view.
It's not that I've given up my relationship nazi role :-) I haven't. I'm still committed to this. It's just now I want to be the wife who gives her hubby a break every now and then. Life is not so much a race. It's to be enjoyed. And this is my partner. I'm the girl in his corner. Always.
I'm not even sure Bo has noticed this, but I've noticed this. I'm a bit less tense and a lot happier. I've mentioned that somehow, and I thank God for the opportunities coming our way, the last few months have been extremely busy for both of us. We are really working hard. I think it's with the realization that we want our family to be financially stable. We both want to be successful people and we have that understanding that right now, right now, is the time to lay that foundation. With all this happening, it can be really challenging to stay as connected as we would want. However what I love the most about myself and my hubby is that we are truly BFFs. It seems to balance us. I'm starting to get that having a hubby who showers me with love and kisses and affection, works hard to bring home the bacon, supports me (to the max!) while I'm working to bring home the bacon, and we are always never too busy to share a laugh, is a magnificent and wonderful thing.
It's like this stage in our marriage we are actually truly becoming one. It's beautiful.
So yes, I think the lesson or realization for me a this stage is, it's okay to cut hubby some slack, but it's also okay to cut myself some slack. Just live and enjoy each other's company for another gracious day we have together.
On another note: I have to forewarn that baby fever is rising in the BoKem household. I foresee that a lot of future posts will be about the oscillation between having a baby and not having a baby, and the excitement about the possibilities of even being at a stage where I'm truly considering being a mother. So I apologize in advance. I can't help it. :-)