List Found!

Bo and I were rummaging through my bags (I've still not unpacked all my bags into my now marital home) and we came across a booklet I had a few years ago, just before I met Bolaji. So we opened the notepad up and on that first page there was the list to the birthday party I was planning, also on that page at the bottom were several signatures. My signatures. Signed with the name of the gentleman who for some reason I was so sure I was going to marry. But still that's not what this blogpost is about. Smack dab in the center of the page was my "list." I've spoken about my list, the list of qualities I would like in a man that I wrote down basically because Dr. Phil told me to (in his book). I was so embarrassed the minute I realized what it was and Bo's question of what it was came. I told him what it was and as he went down the list for some reason he kept on repeating "4 years older??? 4 years older?" I'm not sure why out of everything on the list, this is what stood out to him. Here's my list:

1. Honest
2. Thoughtful
3. Kind
4. Ambitious
5. Sexy Smile
6. Spiritual
7. Not prone to arguments
8. Witty
9. Doest take himself too seriously
10. Non-judgemental
11. Mature
12. At least 4 years older
13. Successful
14. Exposure (exposed)
15. Not quick blooded, thinks rationally
16. Self-control

So that was the list. It was very interesting to go over the list and realize that my hubby actually possesses almost every single quality on this list. How did this happen? I'm not quite sure but I know for sure I got incredibly lucky. Later that day we were in the car when I asked him, how come out of everything on the list the age thing is what got his goat? He tells me that he always thought he would have to marry someone either his age or older than him, he says he never thought in a million years he was going to marry someone younger than him. In his mind then such a person would be quite "young" and immature and he was very much not into that. He didn't say much about anything else on the list. When he read, "sexy smile," he gave me a big smile and I said "you're very silly." :-)

Any baby watch update? Well, we spent the evening yesterday with my parents-in-law and some of Bo's cousins, one of which just had a beautiful baby girl. She's 7 months old. These situations just always make me feel so self-conscious because I feel that everyone's looking to us and thinking "aww, they want one" or "aww, when will you guys hurry up and make babies?" So to compensate for this I tend to not carry any babies when the parents (mine and his) are around. I don't play with the babies or anything, I just make a few comments and get on my blackberry so nobody gets any ideas. Imagine then that I had to raise an eyebrow this morning when Bolaji was getting dressed and says to me, casually might I add, "Guess what I was thinking yesterday?" He then tells me that he was thinking it would be "cool" to have a baby. After making a mental note to limit our interactions with babies in general because it obviously makes my hubby go soft :-), I tell him that from my point of view all babies are cute. It's a fact of life. What's not cute is the story his cousin was telling us of how said baby recently changed sleeping patterns and now keeps them up till 2:30 in the morning by jabbing their noses etc. Bolaji sighs, and says "oh yea, that's not cool." I think I've bought myself more time, score! This is how it is now in the BoKem household. I'm truly wondering how long it will be before we cave. Have I mentioned that I'm thoroughly enjoying this phase of our lives together? Because I do.